So my lovely people, this is one of those 2 am deep-talk sessions. I couldn’t think of a better way to write this blog than to stay up really late and just vent and try to help you all. Because this is a topic that a lot of people, men and women, str
uggle with, and its taken me awhile to
get to this point. And I’m not saying that I have a stellar amount of self-confidence, but its definitely a lot better than what it was 6 months ago. So this post is going to be a bit of a personal story. Please excuse the babbling, and I’ll try to be as clear as I can!!
My first tip is to surround yourself with love. I used to have a very toxic friendship with someone who constantly belittled me and made me feel like I was nothing. And for some reason, I wanted to date this dude. He always used me to make himself feel better by making me feel fat and ugly. After I got away from this person, I realized that this wasn’t true. Ever since I moved, I have made it a point to surround myself with people that will build me up, and it has made a world of difference. I no longer look at myself with his hurtful words in my head.
Along those same lines, I urge you to try and not point out your flaws, especially when looking at yourself in the mirror. This takes a lot of practice, so start small. Whenever you hear yourself start to notice everything about you that you don’t like, walk away. Don’t let yourself sit there and marinate in negativity because its only going to hurt you. I’m getting to the point where I’m starting to notice great things about myself naturally, which never happened before. But like I said, it takes practice so don’t not give up on yourself.
Another way to feel beautiful is to do good things for others and not expect anything in return. This may seem random, but being there for others helps you feel better about yourself. By forgetting yourself for awhile, you can clear all those negative thoughts in your head.
The biggest thing is to accept yourself for who YOU are!! If you let your freak flag fly and walk around proud of what you bring to the table, there won’t be anyone that can tear you down. I used to try to change myself, thinking that no one would accept me for who I was. I still do try to give people a reason for my weirdness, but I’ve stopped apologizing for who I am. I’ve learned to accept that there will be people who do not like me, but there will also be people who do! Also, stop comparing yourself to other people. I know its really hard and for several years of my life, that was all I did. But if you sit and really figure out who you are, then you won’t feel the need to compare yourself. Now, I’m not saying I never compare myself, because frankly, I would love to be Emma Stone, but I’m not her and never will be, so why should I waste my time wishing I was? Because YOU are here for your own purpose and it may take awhile to figure out what that is, but please never stop trying!
I want you all to notice that I did not talk about beauty or makeup once in this blog. Feeling beautiful does not come from the outside. It comes from you and how you feel about yourself. If you don’t believe in yourself, then no one else will. You don’t stand a chance without you!
So please, go out there: challenge yourself, face your fear, forgive someone who has hurt you, do something positive for someone else. It all takes time and patience, but please give yourself a shot. Confidence takes work, and I’m no expert but I’m miles from where I was. I really hope this made sense in any way, and if you would like to see more blogs like this, let me know!!!
Also, if you ever want to talk, tweet me!! @Ames1788, I would love to support you in any way that I can!!